One thing I’ve learned through college is that sometimes, friends just grow apart. People change, and that’s just inevitable.
I wonder if the test of a true friendship is whether or not one happens to grow in a similarly complementary way to the other, like two independent variables converging by coincidence. I think there’s something to be said about core personalities — ie. traits that I see in myself as being fundamentally “Alice” from when I was young to when I’ll be old: ambition, goofy, childish at times — but sometimes I just wonder if all the friends we end up with are close with us by chance. If experiences change people so much that by the end of them, they simply aren’t the same person and will always be different. The mark of a friend is acceptance, but I think that a true relationship requires compatibility, too.
Saturday, October 20 2012
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